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The first thing I'd recommend is to give the psychiatrist more time. They probably did not address the orgasm issue because the depression and the pain meds can both kill sexual desire and sexual performance. As your psychiatrist gets to know you better, they may be willing to try different antidepressants which may have lower sexual side effects. They may take your sexual side effects more seriously or as a higher priority if they see that the depression improves but the sexual effects aren't improving.
You may also want to talk to your regular physician or an OB/GYN about trying estrogen cream that can be used to help increase your sex drive and may help you reach orgasm. Your doctor may also do more in-depth bloodwork to determine if your hormone levels are in need of stronger medication to help correct them. I have seen many women with depression who have not responded well to antidepressants, but once they started estrogen therapy they saw huge improvement in mood, energy, pain levels, and other symptoms that had previously been chalked up as "mental" or depression related.
From a sex therapy perspective, you need to look at if you're getting sexual pleasure, and if what you're getting is satisfying. You may have to stop trying to have an orgasm to take that stress of you and your partner. For most women orgasm isn't the goal, it's a byproduct of adequate sexual stimulation and adequate emotional bond or intimacy with their partner. If either of those are missing, the chances of orgasm decrease.
The Elusive Orgasm: A Woman's Guide to Why She Can't and How She Can Orgasm by Vivienne Cass
How to Have an Orgasm...As Often As You Want by Rachel Swift
Intimacy & Desire: Awaken the Passion in Your Relationship by David Schnarch
There are therapists you can talk to via Skype and other electronic means.
this is all very good information. the link above is a list of therapist that work online?
Yes, Live Person have online counselors
That's the link to their professionals who are specialize in Sex Therapy issues
You can also look at http://therapists.psychologytoday.com/rms/prof_search.php for therapists near you who may specialize in sex therapy.
Oh...very good then. I am so glad I contacted you. I suppose I have quite a period of muddling through yet but the info you have provided me is a great start!
But my recommendation would be to get a checkup with your OB/GYN first and rule out the role of estrogen before spending money on sex therapy.
I believe I have already gone to that site but I will double check.
What do you think about the plant estrogen creams?
They are worth trying, especially if your natural estrogen levels are fairly normal but the antidepressants and pain medications are just making it harder for your body to respond to sex.
There has even been research on using Viagra in women who are having sexual issues due to antidepressants, but your insurance may not pay for it. But it's another avenue worth looking at.
OK. Thank you very much for all of this information. It is greatly appreciated.
Thanks for using JustAnswer :-)