we have been together for almost 5 years...moved in quick, had a bit of a rocky beginning...worked things out for a bit and then she got pregnant with our first child, who is three years old now (he has spinal muscular atrophy, type 2). things have always been stressful between us, but very passionate for each other and caring of each other. i think stress has weighed us both down. she recently gave birth 4 months ago to our second baby boy who is completely healthy.
what did i do? ....well, i was an immature 26 year old when she got pregnant, never really had myself together...buried myself and then both of us in credit card debt (which she had to pay off) wasnt too supportive during both her pregnancies for some reason....i realize now how much of a jacka$$ ive been and shes the best thing to ever happen to me...i dont want to lose her
she told me she's not in love with me, but loves me and wants a separation but doesnt want me to leave the house cuz i take care of the kids during the day and she needs help with them in middle of night....
she's never trusted me fully, always had suspicions i cheat(had some evidence)....i feel like she's emotionally checked out from me and possibly investing thoughts and plans to be with someone else....although she denies that completely several times
no drug/alcohol problems with either of us....
ive only recently figured out how much i want to be with her and have been the ideal mate in the last week...ive gotten no response yet, she insists it will take longer than that to see if anything changes...she said she wants to give it 3 months and see what happens...lemme know if you need more
i will def take your advice and i hope its not too late....
1. what are the odds that she is into someone else?
2. how concerned should i be that, that is the case? i have given her several opportunities to reveal anything and she hasnt. she insists that she wouldnt do that to me. she tells me she doesnt even think about sex and if she went the rest of her life without sex that would be fine right now.
3. she doesn not initiate affection toward me and accepts it awkwardly.
i think you've been a big help in assuring me that i have a great partner and i hope that by doing all those things that over time, this will get better.
she is very attractive but she was never really too aggressive sexually, so im hoping thats a good sign as well.
thank you so much.