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Thank you for contacting Just Answer. I am sorry to hear about your situation. It sounds to me that she may be upset about the separation between you and your husband. I certainly am not a mind reader, so don't know for sure. But how about you sitting down with her and asking her what she is upset about and see if the two of you can come to somee understanding.
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She will not speak to me - any attempt on my part to approach her is shunned. I do not think it is the separation that is causing the upset - though obviously the marriage difficulties underpin a lot of the problems which go back a long way. She seems so volatile and I think I need a different tack but I find it hard to deal with all this. I am myself have gone through job loss, money problems, a move and the first steps to divorce over the past couple of years - but I hope I have conveyed to her the sense that I'm always here for her. She seems to think I am rejecting her? What about the mood swings?
Of course, I really cannot diagnose her over the internet. That would be illegal. Not talking to her directly, there is no way to know what is going on.
Unless she is willing to talk to you, there is no way to know. If she refuses to talk to you, have you tried writing her a letter letting her know that you love her and would hope that the two of you would keep your communication open. Other than that, I'm afraid there is nothing we can do to force her to sit down and talk.
You might want to seek out a therapist to have someone to talk things over with so that you do not feel all alone. Look at what you already said when you thought you, she and her father should go to family therapy --- she refused. Believe me, I wish I had a better answer for you. You, me, all of us have no control over our children once they are no longer minors. Sad, but that's the situation for all of us.
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I do not really feel that you have answered my question. I appreciate the fact that my daughter is no longer a minor and that I need my own counselling but really I wanted to know how I should recognise if there were warning signs for something more serious over and above the usual family non-communication problems. I realise you cannot diagnose anyone and I wouldn't expect it but I think some further guidance could be given.