Hi, I'd like to help you with your problem.
From what you've described, you have had many stressors in the past year. And these were not little stressors, but major life changing ones. Your symptoms are telling you that you are overwhelmed.
As you described your symptoms, I believe that you may be dealing with two different issues here. One, you may have a mild depression. You do not necessarily have to feel depressed to be depressed. When you feel weary, exhausted, not caring about your conversations, feeling angry, having fleeting wishes to die can all be symptoms of a mild depression.
Your other symptoms are indications of a mild social anxiety disorder. Feeling anxious around other people, crowds, not wanting to go out when you previously wanted to, feeling anxious about conversations with others point to social anxiety.
People can have reactions to stress that involve having several diagnosis at once. In the cases of extreme stress, like you experienced, it would be highly unlikely someone could come through such stress without a reaction. Some people get PTSD (Post Traumatic Stress Disorder), some get anxious, some develop depression and like you, some develop a reaction that is a combination. Given that you had financial stresses along with someone breaking into your home, it is no wonder that you are feeling unsafe in social situations. Your comfort zone was violated. Having important relationships end would trigger a depression. What you are experiencing is called comorbidity. It just means that you have two possible diagnoses at one time.
The good news is that your problems are easily treatable. Ideally a combination of reading, counseling support and stress reduction is what you need to address your issues. There are some books you can get that might help get you started. One is called Undoing Depression: What Therapy Doesn't Teach You and Medication Can't Give You by Richard O'Connor. Another is The Depression Cure: The 6-Step Program to Beat Depression without Drugs by Stephen S. Ilardi. There are also numerous books on social anxiety. Since you are not a shy person by nature, you can read these books and use what applies to you.
Seeing a counselor would be a good idea as well. You need the support and the counselor could help you deal with your feelings and offer stress reduction techniques to help you regain your life.
I believe you will do very well with the interventions I described above. You are reacting in a very healthy manner by reaching out for help and recognizing your reactions to the stress you have been through. I think with help, you will be feeling better very soon.
I hope this helped you,
Edited by Kate McCoy, M.Ed, NBCC, LPC on 12/22/2010 at 12:14 AM EST