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Can you tell me am I handling the situation ok from your experience
You are very insightful into your situation and sound very motivated. You will need help keeping your motivation up, I encourage you to contact a program for victims of assault or domestic violence and see what services they offer. They will typically have advocates available and support groups. Unfortunately, there is nothing you can do to stop him from sleeping in the car and I encourage you to ignore it. However, be prepared that he may get more forceful if his tactic is not working.
I have worked with a lot of women in your situation and you are definitely doing the right thing. Like I said he may escalate his behavior if he does not get his way. Be prepared to get the police or courts involved. That is where talking with an advocate will be helpful, they can guide you through your options.
What I didn't want to happen was get the police involved for my daughters sake as we live in a small village where everyone knows you and this would hurt her. I know that he does love her and I am hoping that he does see since but if he doesn't I know that this will have to happen. It is a long time for two people to be together and he doesn't like to loose power of a situation which is why in these circumstances I don't know what is going to happen because this is the first time I have really put my foot down and said no more can you give me some idea of what kind of outcome I can expect
It is likely that he will try to get his way. He is used to you giving in. When things are calm between the two of you, be clear that this time is different, that you will not give in. But do not discuss this with him if he is starting to get angry or escalate in any way.
You need to plan for the worse, hopefully it will not happen. We talk with women about having safety plans, these are plans to deal with different situations. The best thing you can do for yourself and your daughter is to have plans in place, don't assume or hope that things will go OK.
I know not to irritate a situation I think one becomes very good at it. I think I just wanted to know if I was doing the right thing I have my daughters safety in mind always thank you very much for your help I will be definately call someone I know that its not always good to do things by yourself its just you get used to handling situations yourself and get used to lying to the outside thank you it was nice to talk to someone. Sometimes I think things are surreal but when you say them out they become real
Yes you are right you have become an expert at handling explosive situations. I applaud you in wanting to change this situation and make some healthy changes for yourself and your daughter. You don't need to be this expert any more, it is exhausting! You will not regret getting help. All the best to you and your daughter, you both deserve better treatment.