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Hi, What you are saying in your post is that communication skills between you and your husband are poor and instead of talking about things, an example: he plans to go out with his friends you just yell that you don't like it and then feel ignored, or unheard or respected. Then you become verbally abusive.He too needs to work on giving you what you need in the marriage and that may mean more time. It's a pattern you have set up (both of you, not you alone) and you can break it. If you learn to communicate better, trust one another and not have your marriage be so full of anger. You have been to counseling and it might be a very good idea for both of you to go to marriage counseling to learn how to interact, how to be more respectful to each other and to have better understanding of each other needs. Once you learn how to do that you will be better equipped to communicate better .
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