Good evening. I am online and available to help. Let me know when you are back online and we can meet here in the chatroom.
First let me say Im so sorry you're having such a difficult time with this
would you mind if I asked a couple questions to have a better understanding of what is happening?
yeah please do?
you mentioned that it was sexual repression that caused you to drink to start with...can you tell me a little more about that please?
basically i incredibly shy when i am around new people and particular girls that i may feel an attraction to, i uased to combt this with alcohal that worked for some time but eventually just made it worse
thank you.....that certainly helps to understand better
it sounds like you used alcohol as a means of working up courage....does that sound accurate?
yeah that was it originally and then i found myself in a cycle
It sounds like that cycle has actually built up an association between your emotions and your urge to drink
may I ask...have you ever been through therapy?
i have never had regular therapy only once with the hospital
This association has never been worked through....your confidence is there...its just that you cant seem to draw on it and feel secure with yourself without the alcohol....despite being sober for 2 years now....which you should be very proud of mind you! :)
i am proud, so should i be lloking for therapy?
Yes I believe so...
I think once you work through the issue of confidence then you will feel a great deal more secure with yourself and be able to approach a woman with greater confidence
Does that make sense?
yeah but is their a specific feild of therapy? i should be looking for?
I would suggest meeting with a therapist who is trained in Cognitive Behavioral Therapy
its a matter of identifying how your thoughts and emotions are interconnected and they impact one another
ok thank you for your help is their anything else i should do?
I think this would be a good start for you. Honestly I believe you'll do well in therapy
Do you have any other questions?
why do you think that?
beause you seem very open and receptive to working through this issue
it means that you are willing to do the work involved to get healthier
ok many thanks to you i have no more questions
You are most welcome
You can end the chat by clicking the Accept button if you feel Ive answered you thoroughly :)