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With this type of situation, usually, the only type of intervention that will work is natural consequences and the elimination of any enabling behavior. He is an adult and clearly mentally ill and addicted to substances and behaviors. You mentioned not wanting to send him to treatment with other addicts, if he is willing to explore this, you may need to consider doing this just to get help from professionals that can help with this situation. Your main focus, and the best way to help him, is to educate yourself about co-addiction and enabling. If he gets tickets etc. let him have natural consequences. Does this make sense?
I would encourage you to explore Al-anon meetings or families anonymous meetings in you area in order to get direction from others have experienced this already. Additionally, if he is in this manic state and you feel he is a danger to himself or others you can call your local mental health crisis team and ask them to assess him for an involuntary hold in a hospital until he is stabilized on medications.
I hope this answer helps. I know this is a difficult answer to hear and that you want to help him get well, but bipolar d/o and addiction are two illnesses riddled with denial and severe consequences because the person has to want to get well before they will get well. Sometimes it takes being locked up to allow the jail or the hospital to administer medications/detox him and refer him on to other resources that will help.
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I guess that's what I felt, I went to al-non when I was a young girl to deal with my sister's alcohol addiction, I was considering going there again for this. Thanks for the extra boost to do it again. it helped so much then and was a good solution for both of us. Things they suggested and I put into play helped her accept she had a problem. Also, friends who've had children with this same desease told me something similar, but I wasn't listening