Hello. I believe I can be of help to you with this issue. But I have a few questions I hope you can answer.
How old is your son? Can you be more clear about what you mean about 'letting him go'?
Can you give me an example of how he takes advantage of your desire to help him, and how this never makes any difference?
Also, in the next week or month or so, can you share a prediction of something he might try to say or do to hook you into helping him in some way?
My husband (his step father) say that he is no longer welcome at our home for no reason whatsoever until he can prove to us that he is an upstanding guy. He steals for drugs, he abuses ever attempt to help him. He is homeless and has been for the last 8 years more or less. I have provided him with places to stay, he wont meet his obligations to keep a job and pay for the things needed to surive. Starts off doing good but within weeks it the same ole thing. I have furnished him with 2 different cars, that he has sold for scrap metal and wrecked. In the past I have bought his cigs and provided him with a cell phone. I will be cutting the cell phone off today and when I told him, he said would you get me a phone card so I can use my prepaid phone. My husband said that I am the one holding my sons recovery back, that the longer I enable him the bigger chance that he won't ever get it. My husband has been too generous for mom's sake. He got him into a drug court program after he was caught with drugs. He stent 2 years in a faith based program and may I say he played his part wee. He convinced us all; he is a master manipulator, and con man. All love him until that time comes and he needs something more that a relationship that he steals from whoever he is around. He has jumped from person to person, home to home for years. If I let go, seeing I am the only one who takes the time to talk to him, then maybe he will understand that he needs to get his act together if he wants to continue a relationship with mw. I truly believe that UI will lose him if I quite being there for him. I have prepared myself for that day
He takes advantage of me by calling to say he need gas money to go to this job. I give it to him, only to find out there is no job. He will say well I really needed to take this job and make some money, when I would refuse to give him gas. This is gas money for someone else to take him, for he has no car. He will, guarantee call me this week needing gas money for another job. I have told him that I am done giving him my hard earned money, but then he call and I have in the past done it again. The boy is healthy and I am sure that there are people looking for him because he has wronged them. I hear bad things he's done all the time, I need to remove myself from his life, because it is hurting my relationships and consuming all my energy and time.