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I would definitely disagree with you on the "being unfeeling" bit. You do say that you feel great! If you analyzed this great feeling then maybe you would say that you like feeling free, not obligated to pretend while in a relationship and a lot more feelings that you would be in a position to know. Therefore, you do have feelings. Maybe you expected to feel sad for your loss and this big change in your life and the fact that you do not feel this way seems to worry you if you are "normal". Well, in some cases of divorce or separation people have already mourned their loss during the relationship and not after the break up. They have suffered rejection, being alone and at the same time making efforts to no avail so they have experienced significant disappointment for a long time. Having passed all the stages of "seperation" and its grief such as denial, anger, depression and acceptance while in the relationship, this often can lead to a conscious decision of what is best for the person and when this happens it is very normal to feel positive and happy about it. You may also be feeling that this is a new beginning for you and this makes you feel confident and positive about your future. In all cases, you should not feel guilty about your feelings as I am sure that you have made the best decision for yourself based on the circumstances and your beliefs.
I hope this helps. Please feel free to share any feedback on these thoughts.
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