yes it is, he gets very defensive and than disappears out of your life for awhile. we haven't spoken for almost a year and one day he shows up
and things are going ok with us but he just now had a huge fight with his sister and doesn't "want to speak to her ever again".
maybe..I could try that
I have heard that before:) so you are saying he is trying so hard to avoid therapy because he is afraid of it?
I think he also is afraid of not being in control.
I see. Because he does this with people that he is very close to.
Well, he had an abusive / alcholic father and he was taken out of the home as a teenager even though he didn't want to go. My mom left him ten years ago and he didn't understand why , it was kinda out of the blue after 19 years of marraige. His first wife aborted their baby against his wishes. He has been through some really hard things.
I know he took the death of his mother very hard also as they were really close.
so what can i do to reassure him that that won't happen?
what can I do?
what does emdr stand for?
like I said though, he is very against getting help. So I wouldn't even know how to get him to agree to that. That's ok about the typos.
? I can try:)
yes. do you think he is having a problem "collecting" dogs because he is using the dogs as a way to replace the lost relationships?
oh for funny:) you already answered my question:)
It is sad to see him want to push people away.
he also tries to help everyone all the time..giving money away, buying people things, people he only knew for two years he bought them a trailer, cars, and it's not like he has a lot of money.
and he also has grandious things going on too...like thinking he is getting 200 billion dollars...or that he is a secret agent for the cia... yes, it does make sence because he was a wonderful father..and he isn't always acting this way and when he is not he a very kind person that wants to help and save everyone/ people/ dogs/ ect
I can see that. I am sure we all do it at times.
no but I have heard from others that he has some really irregular sleep patterns and is up at night a lot
sometimes walks around in the dark outside
that is really neat...
i will ask him:) I will try anything:) I just hope he doesn't get mad at me!
that is really neat
i will look into it..and thank you:)
That actually sounds a LOT like him.
That makes sence.
So talk to him like I would talk to my kids:)
basically keep my own cool so as not to make the situation worse.
how do i pay for this session?
ok:) thank you so much!
do you think that his age could mean there is a possibility of alzhiemers?
sometimes he will go to town and talk to someone and forget he has seen them. or will misplace things(but i think we all do that) or forget things like where he put his keys or what he is supposed to do and can get some things confused like what needs to be done for court (but i don't know if that is on purpose)
ok i will check those things out...thank you so much and i will leave you a bonus:) thank you for talking with me.
ok thank you