Thanks for asking the question here and I am sorry to hear that your son has had such struggles.
I think it is great that he has an appointment at the University as he needs to get into some for of ongoing counseling that will help him sort out the feelings he has and has struggled with over the years.
One thing that you can do is try and "normalize" the distress and be supportive (as it sounds you have).
This is a problem faced by many teens and young adults and with help he can certainly feel better and enjoy life without so much distress.
Yes, i try, as does his mother, i am sure though that our marriage break up and the way we did or did not handle it affected him
That could be
he has internalized a lot of his feelings and thats why he is having that gastro distress etc.
You say faced be many teens, but he and i think it unusual since it seems to be unrequited love for a member of the same sex
he operates and interacts quite well with older people, my freinds for example
True, however, if there is a lot of stress, it becomes a barrier to acting out feelings of love etc.
I definitely do not think your son is Schizophrenic....
well, it certainly seems to have "disabled" him in that regard
I see it as a temporary "disability" that he can resolve. He has taken positive steps to accept help and if you encourage this he will get connected with a good counselor that will help unwind some of this conflict and get him on a path toward mental health.
I'm glad you don't think he is, many of the symptoms seem to be a consequence of a feeling of rejection or pending rejection
I have seen adolescents and young adults for nearly 30 years and this is a very workable problem.
If he was schizophrenic he would not have the social functioning accomplishments he has already enjoyed.
He would be much more withdrawn and not have the level of anxiety and OCD you describe.
i am worried about the interaction between his friends when in the appartment, when his fiends girlfriend visits, stays etc
what is it that worries you the most about this?
are you still there?
i suppose, if he cant maintain control he might explode ( violently ) he gets very angry ( not that has ever been violent. i think his major fear is exposing his problems to his friends
If he has a counselor or therapist he will be able to address these issues in the appropriate environment and both of you will feel better.
At a deeper level, he would not proceed with this if he felt he couldn't handle it.
BotXXXXX XXXXXne and the key to this is getting a good counselor via the university.
Yes, a conclusion i already reached. do you really think he has a "stable" future and will resolve these issues?
what can we conclude? is he bipolar? what name can we give his disorder?
I think we can conclude that he needs to be properly diagnosed by a clinician at the mental health center. He could have BiPolar disorder, depressed type which is very treatable but the label is not is important as getting his stable. Without seeing him, I would say it is a depressive disorder associated with identity confusion. Again, very treatable
Is that helpful?
Please reassure your son that he will get help through counseling and tell him that his problems are treatable. I have seen an increase over the past several years of teens and young adults with these problems.........which I believe is having been overexposed to social pressures.......much from the internet.
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