Hi, I'm Howard
I am sorry to say that you may need to prepare for her not coming back. She has been treated extremely poorly. The only chance you may have to get her back, or have a successful relationship with anyone is to find a good therapist that you like and stay with it. In and Out Therapy is seldom successful.
I am in therapy right now, she does not seem interested in going to it herself
Have you ever been diagnosed
I told her I want to go to try and get the help I need to try and save this marriage
no diagnose yet
In that case, you need to work on you, help yourself become a better person and maybe ...maybe she will see that you are serious about making changes, and will give you and therapy a chance.
Seriously, if I was advising your wife and she was determined to come right back to you, with your history of violence, I would advise her not to come back until she was sure that you were making a serious effort to change.
I know I need to change my self, this is not my first marriage or the first time these type of problems have been in the picture, I have never had the skills in a relationship to deal with conflict or problems I have always ran from my troubles and hoped they would go away...well its not working and I really have hit the bottom I do need to get the help...I would rather leave the situation and not get angry and get physical and deal with it later...however I never deal with it
This women has made many sacrifices in our marriage for me and I have taken advantage of that, I just dont know how to change a lifetime of a way of life that has never worked for me and try to get me the right skills to learn how to deal with real issues
I think that you are headed in the right direction, but you need to have patience. You have spent nearly 50 years burying what ever is inside you that causes these behaviors, it may take years to gain the tools necessary to cope, and behave more positively.
She sounds like a wonderful woman, I hope that you can find the healing that you need.
I spoke to my family Dr. about medicine for mood stabilization, he has some concerns, he would like to send me to a psyciatriast for treatment and possible meds..any thoughts
The counseling I am receiving right now is through the local Family Services Agency in my County..just therapists
Perfect, I think that is a great suggestion.
Yes, I think you would benefit from seeing a psychiatrist.
Do both or just treat with the pscy.?
O.K. I will give that a try and see if I cant get my mood stabilzed and under control
And make sure that you sign releases between your Physician, Psych, and therapist so that they can communicate.
Great, I'm glad to hear that.
I hope that I have helped, if so please accept my answer.
Yes, will do ..want to keep them all on the same page....very frustrated right now...have been on workmans comp since Jan.15,2010...not scheduled to go back to work for another 2-4 months...then may lose job as a result of accident that put me on comp in the first place...18 yrs. of employment..$45,000.00 a year job on the line
It sounds very stressful and I know it is easier said then done, but right now, you need to focus on the here and now. Do what you need to do right now to get better, one day at a time and things will begin to fall into place for you, okay.