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It is my 18 year old daughter who is involved with the cancer faker. I know it's fake as somebody doesn't get a cancer diagnosis for then a year of supposed testing. The testing takes place before the diagnosis is made, not after. This guy is lies lies lies and all sorts of ploys for her undivided attention. He cheats on her and is happy to blame complete innocents for all of his misdeeds. I am thinking that if we can get it through her head that the cancer is fake, then maybe she will finally believe that this guy is nothing but trouble all wrapped up in lies and manipulation.
We've discussed with her that it's just unreasonable for somebody to be that sick and not get treatment and just some sort of testing for a year now. We have also discussed the impossibility of somebody other than him to responsible for his misdeeds although he is happy to throw his own family members under the bus and blame them for "impersonating" him.
She seems to be blinded by this guy's manipulations and believes every word out of his mouth and tells us he's "perfect". Incidentally, they are both 18.
I don't think the problem is defined by the cancer lie but it seems to be the most glaring one which all of a sudden came up when she was applying to colleges and writing the required essays. In other words, she was unable to shower him with his required attention 24/7 so he ramped it up with the cancer. Now she is in college and he is texting her all day long..sometimes I see 3 or 4 texts from him in a row and then it's back and forth all through her classes. We not only love her and want her to succeed but we are paying lots of tuition money which we began to save when the pregnancy test came back positive 18 years ago.
I think the guy is a card carrying sociopath who has hold of her via his charm and ability to lie about anything and everything. Here is another way to maybe come to the same conclusion. I know there is lots out there about psychopathic/sociopathic traits. What are the traits of one of their victims while in the blinded and bedazzled stage? (I've not been able to find anything on the web per the bedazzled stage of the victim) Maybe if we asked her about that, maybe she will see something ring true about her new self since he came along.
Also, believing he is a sociopath, it's really hard for 2 parents who love her and each other to sit by and just watch a potential train wreck unfold.