As far as her actions. She likes to refer to herself as a "sister" to our 3 now adult children. They don't think of her as such. They think of her as a friend. She is married with children of her own and she refers to my husband as their grandpa. She has received acceptance from my husband's side of the family. But I don't want to accept her as a part of my family. There are always feelings of jealously when it comes to my husband talking to her on the phone or seeing her once in awhile.
I don't really understand the basis of my resentment. She has always tried to be nice to me. She lives far away in another state and once a year she comes out here to see her adoptive parents, and my husband always wants to get together for dinner with her and her husband and kids. But I get really uptight with her and don't want to have anything to do with her. I really wish she had never been born and I didn't have to deal with the situation.