right now i dont believe a word he says its his actions what matter to me now and whether he does go through with getting help. Im not taking him back at all unless he does get help. Iv had years of his lieing and some of it is the cause of myself being on anti depressiants, but i do want to help him get better for my kids sakes, i want them to have their dad in their lives, if i dont help him then i feel like i havent done enough for my kids and my expartner, because i do still love him and care for him. When he was a child he even accused his mothers boyfriend of sexually abusing him,and he only confessed to lieing about it when he was being interviewed by police and social services. I mean that isnt normal behaviour for a child is it?