It will. It is very common to have a difficult time have sex with a spouse when issues about childhood sexual abuse. Counseling almost always helps, but may take a while (6-12 months). I recommend you keep husband at least a little informed (let him know why you are having trouble with sex and are working on it - he doesn't need all the horrible details), just so he doesn't think there are problems in the marriage.
I had councelling for a year and while it was good for me it hasn't made the problems go away which is why i think Therapy maybe better for me and give me the tools to deal with my problem.
I can't even bare to think about sex now and its driving me mad. When anyone makes a sexual joke or anything relating to sex is on TV or any other types media it just gives me a negative feeling.
Isn't Therapy different from councelling? ,sorry if its the same thing, i thought it was different?
There really is no difference in counseling and therapy.
You may or may not want to change therapists, but please discuss it with therapist.
Given your age, you likely have kept this locked up for a long time, which usually means it is severe.
Did you just recently admit the abuse or have you been taking to counselor about it for a year.
I talked about it with my councellor for a year but i don't see him anymore as it was a free service and feel other need the time. i could go back but was going to pay to see a therapist if it was going to help me more
The counselor thought other people needed the time?
no, i came to the end of my sessions that the service offered but he said i could contiue and come back at any time. but there is always a long waiting list of people who need it too so never went back
OK. I would definately continue, but you may want to seek out someone in private sector. This can take a long time to work through. You have been traumatized a long time, but since geting worse , not better, I would try someone new.
I really thought 'therapy' was different in that a therapist would suggest ways and stratagies to help rather than a councellor who just sits and listens to you. I don't know what to do now though. I want to get better, not just to talk about it all over again and just feelin the same. I'm probably expecting to much. Thanks for trying to help.