How JustAnswer Works:

  • Ask an Expert
    Experts are full of valuable knowledge and are ready to help with any question. Credentials confirmed by a Fortune 500 verification firm.
  • Get a Professional Answer
    Via email, text message, or notification as you wait on our site.
    Ask follow up questions if you need to.
  • 100% Satisfaction Guarantee
    Rate the answer you receive.

Ask Karyn Jones Your Own Question

Karyn Jones
Karyn Jones, Mental Health Professional
Category: Mental Health
Satisfied Customers: 1716
Experience:  Diploma of Counselling and Transactional Analysis Counselling, Lifeline counselling, Pastoral Care.
44579284
Type Your Mental Health Question Here...
Karyn Jones is online now
A new question is answered every 9 seconds

My 22 year old daughter is living back home with me. She has

Customer Question

My 22 year old daughter is living back home with me. She has a 21 month old son. She is addicted to prescription drugs - she snorts them. She is seeing a drug counselor once a week but isn't paying her bills but does have a job. She lost her last job because of stealing. She doesn't stop long enough to talk and get focused and i'm ready to kick her out. I'm giving her a choice - she has a clean urine screen weekly, continues counseling, and allows me to help her manage her finances so she can save for an apartment or she moves out within the next 2 weeks. Is this the righ thing to do?
Submitted: 4 years ago.
Category: Mental Health
Expert:  Karyn Jones replied 4 years ago.
Hello, thank you for contacting 'Just Answer' with regards XXXXX XXXXX concerns/feelings surrounding your relationship with your daughter & her present circumstances.

Firstly though, I would like to commend you on your insight and wisdom in relation to a choice/ and the expectations you have outlined for her that is if she continues down the path that she is presently on...
I believe it is the right thing to do as they are boundaries and guidelines for her that you have set in place, so that she knows what is except able and what isn't exceptable under the circumstances.

Boundaries are healthy ( we all need them )and are essential for all relationships no matter our circumstances.. and although it must be an extremely difficult choice for you to make ..they are your boundaries that she can not cross over into...yet they are also excellent guidelines for her so that she knows whats exceptiable and what isn't going to be accepted while living at home.
They are also forward thinking in that by helping her manage her finances she can not only pay her bills but also look to the future with regards XXXXX XXXXX of her own..
The other two requirements ..* clean urine screen weekly * and continues counseling are all very supportive/caring in the way that its for her health & wellbeing that of her young son and your own mental & emotional wellbeing.

I wonder though if it would be worthwhile actually writing this contract up on paper in very bold print and placing it where she will be reminded of the choice she has inclusive of the words 'excuses are unacceptable with this contract".This might suggest to her that you are serious with seeing it through..as your own mental /physical well being is at stake.
.Also the odd rare time she is is coherent ..ask about her drug counseling..( you may well already be doing this) try to find out what 'tools' her counsellor is actually giving her to assist her recovery ..I know progress can be slow but what if any progress has she made..?
Her counsellor might well have some extra tools/resources for you to use by way of handling issues that come up..would it be possible to discuss this with her counsellor..they should have one or two recommendations for use being specialists in this field.

I hope this has helped shed more light on the issues you are facing..please accept my response if you have no further queries ..my thoughts are with you.
blessings
Karen

JustAnswer in the News:

 
 
 
Ask-a-doc Web sites: If you've got a quick question, you can try to get an answer from sites that say they have various specialists on hand to give quick answers... Justanswer.com.
JustAnswer.com...has seen a spike since October in legal questions from readers about layoffs, unemployment and severance.
Web sites like justanswer.com/legal
...leave nothing to chance.
Traffic on JustAnswer rose 14 percent...and had nearly 400,000 page views in 30 days...inquiries related to stress, high blood pressure, drinking and heart pain jumped 33 percent.
Tory Johnson, GMA Workplace Contributor, discusses work-from-home jobs, such as JustAnswer in which verified Experts answer people’s questions.
I will tell you that...the things you have to go through to be an Expert are quite rigorous.
 
 
 

What Customers are Saying:

 
 
 
  • I can go as far as to say it could have resulted in saving my sons life and our entire family now knows what bipolar is and how to assist and understand my most wonderful son, brother and friend to all who loves him dearly. Thank you very much Corrie Moll Pretoria, South Africa
< Last | Next >
  • I can go as far as to say it could have resulted in saving my sons life and our entire family now knows what bipolar is and how to assist and understand my most wonderful son, brother and friend to all who loves him dearly. Thank you very much Corrie Moll Pretoria, South Africa
  • I thank-you so much! It really helped to have this information and confirmation. We will watch her carefully and get her in for the examination and US right away if things do not improve. God bless you as well! Claudia Albuquerque, NM
  • Outstanding response time less than 6 minutes. Answered the question professionally and with a great deal of compassion. Kevin Beaverton, OR
  • Suggested diagnosis was what I hoped and will take this info to my doctor's appointment next week.
    I feel better already! Thank you.
    Elanor Tracy, CA
  • Thank you to the Physician who answered my question today. The answer was far more informative than what I got from the Physicians I saw in person for my problem. Julie Lockesburg, AR
  • You have been more help than you know. I seriously don't know what my sisters situation would be today if you had not gone above and beyond just answering my questions. John and Stefanie Tucson, AZ
  • I have been dealing with an extremely serious health crisis for over three years, and one your physicians asked me more questions, gave me more answers and encouragement than a dozen different doctors who have been treating me!! Janet V Phoenix, AZ
 
 
 

Meet The Experts:

 
 
 
  • Dr. Keane

    Therapist

    Satisfied Customers:

    1262
    Clinical Psychology PhD, Licensed Professional Counselor with experience in marriage/family, teens and child psychology.
< Last | Next >
  • http://ww2.justanswer.com/uploads/DR/Dr.Keane/2013-8-20_204325_drkeane.64x64.jpg Dr. Keane's Avatar

    Dr. Keane

    Therapist

    Satisfied Customers:

    1262
    Clinical Psychology PhD, Licensed Professional Counselor with experience in marriage/family, teens and child psychology.
  • http://ww2.justanswer.com/uploads/RE/resolutions66/2011-1-17_05728_IMG8202smilingeditedforJustAnswer.64x64.jpg Elliott, LPCC, NCC's Avatar

    Elliott, LPCC, NCC

    Psychotherapist

    Satisfied Customers:

    5024
    35 years of experience as a Licensed Professional Clinical Counselor, National Certified Counselor and a college professor.
  • http://ww2.justanswer.com/uploads/formybunch/2010-12-06_191055_img_0975.jpg Kate McCoy, M.Ed, NBCC, LPC's Avatar

    Kate McCoy, M.Ed, NBCC, LPC

    Therapist

    Satisfied Customers:

    3733
    Over 20 years experience specializing in anxiety, depression, drug and alcohol, and relationship issues.
  • http://ww2.justanswer.com/uploads/DR/DrAkiraOlsen/2012-2-20_746_AkiraADpicmain.64x64.jpg Dr. Olsen's Avatar

    Dr. Olsen

    Psychologist

    Satisfied Customers:

    2336
    PsyD Psychologist
  • http://ww2.justanswer.com/uploads/norriem/2009-5-27_134249_nm.jpg Norman M.'s Avatar

    Norman M.

    Psychotherapist

    Satisfied Customers:

    2193
    UK trained in hypnotherapy, counselling and psychotherapy and have been in private practice. ADHP(NC), DEHP(NC), UKCP Registered and ECP.
  • http://ww2.justanswer.com/uploads/PsychologyProf/2010-07-15_171248_logos060400409.jpg Dr. Michael's Avatar

    Dr. Michael

    Psychologist

    Satisfied Customers:

    2177
    Licensed Ph.D. Clinical Health Psychology with 30 years of experience in private practive and as a clinical psychology university professor.
  • http://ww2.justanswer.com/uploads/KURTEMMERLING/2010-07-23_215531_just_ask_picture1.jpg Steven Olsen's Avatar

    Steven Olsen

    Therapist

    Satisfied Customers:

    1727
    More than twenty years of expertise in counseling, psychological diagnosis and education
 
 
 
Chat Now With A Mental Health Professional
Karyn Jones
Karyn Jones
Mental Health Professional
1716 Satisfied Customers
Diploma of Counselling and Transactional Analysis Counselling, Lifeline counselling, Pastoral Care.