I'm sorry I couldn't write more in my question. First, I had a brief affair, about which my husband told my parents everything. At that point my dad (who I work for) suspended me from my job and wanted me to get help. Now he is focusing on the way I parent my kids, what I feed them, etc. We have just moved and he does not understand why I have so many boxes. He came over and showed me a list of bi-polar symptoms and said that is what I have, due to the affair and disorganization.
In his letter to the doctor I am scheduled to see, he cites the food I feed my children, the affair, he calls me a hoarder (I do save many things; however, they are in neat boxes in my attic), he said all during my growing up years I have been chronically late (which I admit but corrected about 15 years ago) and that he would always have to support me.
Meanwhile my husband has no qualms with these things except the affair of course.
I feel extremely violated that my parents would send a letter prior to my even seeing the doctor. I feel that I will walk in there and he will already have the story from someone else, not in my own words. I feel suffocated by my parents. I have a husband yet they want me to answer to them. I feel trapped. Much of my unhappiness stems from my parents' actions. I realize I have brought some of them on, but it still hurts. Another example is that my mom e-mailed the wife of the person I had the affair with for months and told her all of my whereabouts and said very mean things about me. Thank you for your help.