Thank you for your response. I did end up calling the hostess. She did ask me what happened. She thought it was terrible,but once again I think if she had any concern since it was her event she could have taken the initiative to call me. She did suggest we get together separate from these other people. I told her I was open to that but i did not want to create any chaos. That is not my nature. She did say "perhaps I should not have invited you." That tells me where loyalty's lie. At the risk of sounding arogant I believe I am a person with greater caring and integrity. They are in their safe closenit little group and don't really give a damm about me anymore no matter whose in the right or wrong. I am hurt and angry. If my ex friends husband reaches out again perhaps the next woman won't have the same standard of morals. That will be their problem. It will take me a little while to get over this shaming experience. I.m not sure if I should have called the hostess but I do feel better letting her know what happened even if she does not give a damn. I have closed my relationships with these people. I f the hostess calls I think I will refuse to invitation. I am moving on making new friends as difficult as it is given my present status. If you would like to comment I would appreciate it. Thank you again.