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You're doing lots of 'right' things...don't think that just because your husband isn't getting better that you're on the wrong path. He does need medical treatment, but as you've found out, you can't make him stick with it.
Taking care of your children and yourself is what you can focus on and have more control over. Mind
is a good program. I think you would benefit from the support and information you can find there - it will help you make a decision about whether it's best to stay with your husband or leave, and the steps through that process.
Your husband's disease will get progressively worse if you stay or go, so it's best for you to take care of yourself and the children first. His disease is taking him down - you don't want to add
you & the children to the vicXXXXX XXXXXst...that gives the disease too much power. You can see how it's taken him over. Things like this can take a whole family down by the sheer stress
of living like you're walking on eggshells for years.
You're not alone in your struggles, and this isn't your fault. You didn't cause it, can't control it and you can't cure it. Mental illness is a problem he has to face to get better. Leaving him may give him the push that he needs to change.
My best to you.
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