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I am sorry to hear about the problems you are experiencing with your daughter. You are in a difficult position as you have the stress of being a single parent and dealing with this stress alone. The good news is that these behaviors are likely very much able to be corrected. Keep in mind that any behavior that gets attention is likely to continue happening, even if it is negative attention. It has been called the law of the soggy potato chip in that if a child thinks that she has a choice between a soggy potato chip or no chip at all, she will choose the soggy chip. If your daughter feels that he has the choice between negative attention or no attention at all, she will choose the negative attention and so she will act out until she gets it. The only way for this pattern to stop is for to begin to catch the good behaviors and reward them with attention, and to calmly and matter of factly give consequences for the negative behaviors with as little attention as possible. This means no yelling, hitting, lecturing or crying when she misbehaves, just giving consequences. A very good book on this subject is Win the Whining War & Other Skirmishes: A Family Peace Plan by Cynthia Whitham MSW. Remember that the more consistent you are with this positive parenting, the more secure your daughter will begin to feel that she is able to get attention through positive behaviors and the more her behavior should improve. If after consistently trying this technique you see no improvement, then an evaluation with a child psychologist would be a good idea. I hope this answer is helpful. Please let me know if I can clarify further.
Thanks - i will try