I have seen it about do you think I might help - the thoughts as such haved stopped but I think the subject as you said just came over me and started with just general thoughts of kids in sexual enviroments or situations and thats when I got a bit worried and thought as a parent this is not right
I was also really wondering if this type of response could arise from what you have heard, bacause it all seems very wrong, but as I say it has calmed down, just times when I'm alone, away on business that I sometimes go over the thoughts I have had they where not lots, but one bad thought can play on the mind for a long time
Sure I was not meaning appropriate, more along the lines that there is a link for this kind of worry. Like you say I would never do these kind of things but just flickering thoughts are enough to make me very full of anxiety. I hope you don't think I'm trying to justify this worry
I have been to see a guy about this told my wife my parents and going to see a hypnotherapist any to make it go any
I feel like I have started being a parent on such the wrong foot, I look as at all the badness in the world and stop myself saying how can you talk
I will look into these type of treatments, but the guy that I was seeing did not really say to much. I said to him it was like as soon as this subject entered my head my anxiety(which my dad and his dad and myself suffer) started. As I wanted to block out all these thoughts or associations, which probably what it really is as you said the two subjects
coming together which should never, I think with all thats been in the news, the subject of fathers doing these type of things then I have thoughts on the subject triggered a worry
Great I know you come across all sorts of people, and you don't know what someone is like, but I would never do anything like this, but you can see how painfull this could be, I tell myself you are being silly and most times it works...
Sarah I just wanted everything to be perfect for my little girl coming into the world then to have to cope with this is very hard. I have got through the worst of it. But all along worried that if this was an slighty understandable event - I is kind of being so worried to think something, that you already have
Well the worse is over and I just find myself looking back saying how could think these things. I felt as she told me that she had had a tough life and to hear this was reallt disturbing, she told because her sister and herself have not been getting on, and she wanted me to hear it from
her not anyone else.
Well at the time life was great, although not sleeping too well at nights, so wonder if I was under some stress.
She has been under some stress too in recent months, as too has my brother, she has not told my brother
I'm a bit of a sensitive guy, and a worrier back in the day going for an HIV test gave me the same kind out problems
Yeah I think she feels bad telling me now, but I keep saying this happened to her not me and would never blame her, we have be a very close family...came over from South Africa in 1994 aged 14 with them and my brother is 28 with his first child
Do you think I'm suffering from depression? Or is that competely different? Can Anxiety be as worse?
I have taken less of an interest in things, the thoughts have left me in dark places and there have been thoughts of suicide(although not that bad just thoughts as we said). But this could all be from thinking some of the most disturbing thoughts I have every thought my entire life. I'm feeling half the man I did!!
The worry was only every never looking at a child that way, which started after dealing with this subject - which I can see now. I did feel I lost my mind. And if you had the feeling that you are not in control of your thoughts, it's a scary place
Thank you Sarah I will copy this conversation to read with my wife - it is her email I gave, mine is a work one
Yes you have, I always get worried when telling a new person about my issue - that it is not miss understood. I love Chloe very much. We are expecting our second child in March
Thanks Sarah been a real help - as you deal with real problem good to hear your opinion
Thanks bye bye, a tip is in order too