Thank you for your input especially about the labeling.
The young man in question is my nephew and the young girl is my teenage daughter who is his cousin.
I was really trying to understand the implications of what he has done in regards XXXXX XXXXX much of a sexual offender he could possibly be. He has not offered any apology for what has been happening over the years which makes me think he is not owning it.
My sister and I have been very close but i am concerned that she sees these incidents between the two cousins as mutual sexual behavior instead of molestation.
This has been going on since my daughter was three and he six or since ever she can remember. Of course this means it was possible for some other person being involved or some pornography.
She has also said that even though she has said no he tried to do things to her even while at a Christmas party or Easter gathering. I am concerned as he turns eighteen soon that since she has said no will he go after others. Are there different levels of sexual difficulties ?
This young man is very quiet and does have a problem with communication. I think it is the way he processes things but he has always seemed so sweet. His stepfather mentioned that what was a positive, being good with children, before this incident may not be so great now. He does not have nor had a girlfriend. In fact he spends too much time around his mom. His dad died when he was 4 and his sister 3.
From what you mentioned about the cognitive info from my daughter i see what you are saying. He denied trying to kiss my daughter's girlfriend after my daughter said no. He is another state than us but i would like to work together as a family to help. Is this possible?
Can various members of the family, extended, help with their relationship with this young man so that my sister does not feel isolated and therefore keeping it more secret?
Thank you for your info.