I have actually made appointments that he has refused to go to. It's to the point now that he is so disturbed that "I" have the problem. I have given him too much control and he is definitely emotionally abusive. The only thing I can do is sit and wait for him to threaten to hurt himself or someone, or wait for a punch to be able to force him to go.
Are there any communication techniques or ways to help him see what he's putting our family through without pushing him over the edge and sending him into a furious rage? How do you get through the irrationality that blocks him from understanding others? I know timing is important, but his understanding of my feelings only seems to stay around when he needs something from me.. Do I just leave him to prove my point?
I believe he does have that tendency too and also has sexual addiction issues in which he uses he sex to justify the appropriateness of his moods. Yes I do need counselling and completely agree with that. If anything it would help me to love myself more and be there for our 3 children which seem to pick up on these behaviors and are deprived time and attention because of the focus I put on my husband. Thank you.
Unless you can think of anything else.. You can simply send a goodbye response and I will accept your answer. Thanks.