hi there Annette,
I hope I am able to help you a little further. I agree with Dr Rossi's information regarding hypnotherapy, as this treatment can truly help someone such as your self to overcome the stress
you are experiencing when people watch you playing golf. it is possible that you have some beliefs about people watching you that are lodged in your subconscious mind, perhaps from childhood, and it is this anxiety that you may be re-experiencing in the golfing forum. I would strongly suggest that you have a look at a website www.Anne-smith.co.uk Anne is a British former ladies champion golfer and is now a hypnotherapist, specializing in sport and in particular, golf. She will totally understand where you are coming from. I have done some training with her and she is truly a lovely lady. please feel free to mention my name - say Sarah has recommended her to you, the lady who brought her a flower from her garden. Anne may be able to help you directly, or maybe able to recommend a therapist in America for you, closer to home.
Alternatively, you could look into a therapy call EMDR which is based upon the theory that the stress you are experiencing during golf isn't being processed away at night time during REM (rapid eye movement) sleep and EMDR simulates REM whilst thinking about the anxiety, allowing it to be processed away. You can find more info and a local therapist at www.emdr.com
unfortunately, you are in a cycle of expecting to feel anxious and this can increase the anxiety during your golf play. The key is to break the cycle so that you expect to feel confident, calm and positive. I can guarantee that Anne will at least be able to have a helpful conversation with you. I do so hope this is helpful to you. Best Wishes, Sarah