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Ok, one thing i failed to mention is that his "time alone" means no contact whatsoever. He broke up with me!! My question is, why break up with me at all if you say you're in love with me and still want forever with me...?? makes no sense. but he says he needs this break UP because he feels like he needs to detach from me for a while so he could focus on himself and his health. He says he doesn't want to drag me down with him because he says i deserve better than that. He says he's doing this in order to save our relationship because he feels like if this keeps going on and we stay together it's just going to get worse(this was before i thought of PTSD...i don't even think PTSD came across his mind as a possibility), which i agree with him on that. I encouraged a break to give him time to himself because a break, youre not necessarily broken up you're just taking time alone for a while,so he could "get hisself together", but instead what i got was a break UP which was very unexpected. So if he has every intention on getting back together, then why even break up with me in the first place? I don't know..this is all confusing. He says i'm not going to understand, to just trust him, that everything is going to be ok. But it's not fair for me to be put on hold and just wait around... Should i call him up and tell him what's on my mind or leave him alone until he calls me, because after all, thats what he wants. The more i call him and try to "talk" aggervates him and the last thing i want to do is push him away. I'll ask my family and his family, who knows him of course, and they say baby he needs time everything is going to be ok, he loves you more than anything he just need to get himself together dont take it personal he'll get his head clear and come back to you...and i ask some friends who do NOT know him, and of course an outsider would say Oh he feel out of love with you and doesn't want to hurt your feelings or there's another girl and blah blah, and in most cases yes but they don't know him and when i tell you he's being honest with me, he is. I don't think i know him, i KNOW i know him. He has always being blunt and honest with me regardless whether it would hurt me or not. I never need to be reassured that he loves me because he shows me each and everyday. We have that love everyone is looking for, i guess I got lucky in that sense, but even lucky ones deal with problems, but lucky ones don't break UP! Wouldn't even need a break! He just has no clue what's wrong with him and i want to pick up the phone and say PTSD!! Let's work it out together now that we know! Of course I wouldn't approach it like that haha, I'm just venting to you. When i went to his house a few days ago to get some things i left over there, as i was leaving, and he cried to me saying "please don't leave me please try to understand I'm doing this for us. I don't wanna be broken up i want you so bad but nothing else has worked. Hopfully me being alone will fix me". Look i can talk for hours and really don't wanna drag this conversation out or put you to sleep haha, just please email me whenever you have time. Thanks so much!