My ExWife is extremely, what I call, co-dependent on our children. She calls them several times a day. Can't stand being away from them. One day last year she showed up at my house at 6am crying and telling me that she was so worried about me taking the kids. Saying that my fiance, now wife, can have more children but please don't take our children from her. She had no reason to even be concerned about this.
Years ago she was admitted into the hospital twice because she tried to commit suicide. This is after many time of just being completely paranoid about me leaving her or cheating on her. I don't remember what her diagnosis was, but I remember it was a combination of paranoid...something something...
She was great when she was on her medicine, and terror when she wasn't, constantly calling me on the phone, asking when I would be home, etc.
After my youngest was born, and we were separated, I was out of town on business and she called at 3 am saying that she was going to kill the baby because she was crying and wouldn't go to sleep. I ended up calling her sister to go to her house and pick up the girls.
I'm glad not to be in the relationship with her, but my daughters are 4 and 6, and she acts like her life would end without them. Yet she gets so upset with them sometimes.
Now we are back to court over custody. After our divorce she refused to take the parenting class, insisting that she didn't need to. Of course, after arguing with me that she didn't need to and me showing her the law that she had to, the courts gave a default judgement giving me full custody.
Of course, however, I did
really make a big thing out of this, and pretty much we just split the time between us. But now we're going back to court after her fiancé convinced her one night that she didn't have to bring the girls back, resulting in me calling the police. She won't take any responsibility for anything that she does, everything is someone else's fault.
I'd like to have any suggestions on how you think I should
1. Help my daughters. What to expect in the future? Can this behavior, co-dependence, etc. affect them and how can I help them.
2. How do you think this should affect the custody issue? Obviously there is much more that has happened then I can write here. But truthfully I worry about the girls being with her too much. She doesn't handle stress
, gets upset way too easily, make very poor decisions. If you have suggestions on what to say, do, or anything, I'd appreciate it.
I'd appreciate any suggestions or thoughts on how to deal with this.