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This could be long, but, in a nutshell, Johnny had 2 strokes in 2/09. He fell backwards and hit his head on the pavement and had a very bad concussion that had him vomiting for a week. While he was in the hospital, he fell in the bathroom and broke a vertebra. He had back surgery to repair it and it is ok. He had weakness on his left side and had a very hard time speaking. There was in-home therapy. He was getting much better, except he had drop-foot, which was caused partially by the stroke and partially because of weight loss and crossing his leg and putting pressure on the nerve on the outside of the left leg. He fell several time, always backwards, and usually hit his head.l The physical therapy was really helping and he was speaking better. In June of 09, he was eating an orange in the a.m. and when I glanced over at him, he looked like a chipmonk. I asked him why he had so much orange in his mouth and he said he was trying to swallow it. He chewed a little more and I told him to lets start over and gave him a plate and had him spit all the orange out. Then, just to be safe, I asked him to stand up. He did that fine. Then I asked him to raise his hands above his head and he did that fine. I asked him to tell me his name and where we lived and he answered correctly. Then I asked him to smile and only half of his face smiled. I called an ambulance and we had him at the hospital within 30 minutes. They gave him the TPA shot, which they could not do the first time because they didn't know exactly when he had the stroke. The TPA really helped. When he went home, he was enrolled in the Quest program, which is for brain injuries. He did that for 6 months. He only fell a couple of more times and not backwards. The drop foot got better, but he still doesn't bring his left foot all the way through when he walks unless he really thinks about it. He is himself, expect that he doesn't have much of a can do attitude and he doesn't seem to want to work to get even better unless I ask him to. He never knows what day it is and he still has gait problems. He is still pretty strong and is lifting weights when his daughter comes over 4 days a week to do a boot-camp style exercise program with me. We try and get him to do as much as possible. This is a wonderful, sweet man who is my heart. I love him with all my heart. We have been married 28 years. When I get angry with him, it is usually because he has messed up on something that I know he can do if he thinks, or when he doesn't do anything to help himself or me. I am comfused about this because I don't know what is stroke related and what is lazy or unconcerned. I was horrified when I pushed him and I get so angry with him that I am really ugly and don't like myself during or afterward. When I ask him what he really wants, he says he wants to please me. That is very hard for me to handle. No one should live only to please another. I have tried praise and I have tried tough love and I have tried everything in between that I know about. Thank you for your time and caring. I would like to send you a pic of us if you can give me an email to send it to.