Thanks for writing to JA. You have an important questions... and I appreciate that you chose to begin with us. In order to provide better answer(s) to your question(s), it would be helpful if you could tell me a little more about the problem:
1. Has your son been arrested for indecent exposure or is this a concern that does not also have legal involvement?
2. Some "legal involvement" for indecent exposure has no sexual connotations whatsoever. For example, in many states, getting caught "peeing in the woods" can result in arrest for indecent exposure. Was this the case with your son?
3. What specifics can you relate about this matter? How did it come to your attention? Was anyone else involved? What is your son's story about what happened? What have you done so far?
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4. Was there any overt violence involved in the "indecent exposure?" That is, were victims hurt in any way (other than the exposure)? Were others involved in similar behaviors?
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Well, finally, it appears that I can reply to your post. (There were a few glitches apparently).
Thanks for your reply to my queries and, again, my apologies that I couldn't respond more quickly.
You have reason to be concerned about your son's behavior... reason enough to see a licensed mental health professional (LMHP). I would contact his pediatrician or your family doctor for a referral to an LMHP who works with adolescents. (I wouldn't recommend a psychiatrist (for medication) or someone who specializes in sexual behavior... start with a generalist-LMHP who can grasp the global picture.)
Why go to an LMHP? Because it is important to diagnose whether or not your son's behavior reflects an underlying mental disorder related to sexuality (such as a paraphilia), related to mood/thought processing, or to impulse control. It is also possible that your son just demonstrated very poor judgment and would benefit from sitting down with someone to figure this all out.
Once an LMHP has a better understand of your son's behavior (and the reasons behind it), s/he will be better able to (a) diagnose the problem and (b) design an appropriate treatment protocol to address the problem.
Your son is very fortunate that, at this time, he was not arrested for his behavior. In some states, if convicted, he could be jailed for committing a felony and (again in some states) placed on a permanent "sexual criminal" list... which would have long-lasting occupational, living, social, and economic repercussions. Use this, then, as an opportunity to get him in to see an LMHP. If nothing else, should this event occur again, it will demonstrate to the legal authorities that you have been trying to address this problem.
I can only imagine the heartache (or anger or confusion or frustration or embarrassment... or all of the above) that this may be causing you. Please remember that this young man is the same 5 year old you helped to ride a bike - and the same young man who may one day be the father of your grandchildren. That is to say, you may be dumbfounded right now with his behavior - but give him time to get some healing under his belt - so he can become the kind of son your whole family had been planning for all along. Please, get him to an LMHP.
Thanks. Best of luck to you and your son.
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Anyone with a license to practice psychology, social work, or psychiatry can do therapy (and call themselves a therapist). In your son's case, I would probably begin with a psychologist or social worker who knows adolescents.
Well, I'm not suggesting that one professional might be better than another... really more a matter of matching the therapist and his/her skills to the specific problem(s) being addressed. Sort of like - I wouldn't go to a neurosurgeon to fix my high blood pressure - so I probably wouldn't go to a traditional "talk therapist" to deal with, say, chemical addiction or depression.
My sense is getting that first diagnostic picture down pretty solid with guide where to move next.
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