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I am concerned my boyfriend is in a state of hypomania. He

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I am concerned my boyfriend is in a state of hypomania. He has not been formally diagnosed with bipolar but does have a family history (mother and grandfather.)
In the past, he has engaged in excessive gambling, reckless driving, and rampant casual sex. He recently began chain-smoking again. He chewed nicorette gum, and did tobacco "chaw" in the shower. This went on for five days until he made himself sick and quit. Since quitting, he has been irritable, distant, and antsy. He is also drinking alcohol in excess: always having at least 2 drinks per sitting, usually consuming between 4-6 drinks a day. 6 days ago, he stopped letting me stay over at night. He is writing a play and sometimes writes for 10 hours during the day. He also stopped having sex with me, or showing any physical affection. Last night he broke up with me b/c he didn't want to be in a romantic relationship with me. Last week he told me he wanted to stay together next year when we will be in different cities. Help
Submitted: 4 years ago.
Category: Mental Health
Expert:  Anna replied 4 years ago.
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I think he's past hypomania and well into a manic episode. You've got great insight and observational skills! The best thing to do is to get him to a doctor - ANY doctor. They can give him meds to try and chip it down a notch so that he might be amenable to further treatment. It's also usually easier to get into see a GP than a psychiatrist, and time is of the essence in this case. Even a walk-in clinic is a good start.

I would write out his symptoms in short form...in a list and at the end of it, say that you can see he's hurting and want what is best for him. You'd like to take him to see a doctor for help. Keep the focus off arguing about the symptoms and what they mean...instead, focus on how he seems and how much you see different, how unhappy he seems, how much you care and want him well. Say things like, "I see you doing things that I know aren't really you." When someone is this far into it, they're usually paranoid as well, so you have to try to work around that a bit.

I would also contact his mother and let her know what is going on....she may have some influence as well.

He's got to be feeling horrible right now, and these things snowball. If it gets to the point where he really is out of it, call an ambulance and have them handle it. They do this all the time and know what to do. They can get him to an ER if you can't. Some people wait till they're drunk and then take them to the ER. During the wait, he'll sober up and show the mania, but the staff will believe you if you come in and communicate like you've done in your note. You make perfect sense and are hitting the right spots.

Breakups made during times like this don't really count, so I wouldn't put much energy into that. Do what you can do, but also you have to understand that you may not be able to motivate him to get help. If that becomes the case, you'll have to let him go.

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