They operative thought here is that you are not going to change your mother at this stage of the game. What then remains is your only option which is to change your reaction to her as you are not going to change her. This is clearly easier said than done, but if you are as motivated as you sound it certainly sound s that there is a small opportunity to work things through.. Best wishes and good luck. There is not a whole lot of time to mend fences. I again suggest that you be the one to bend and allow a working through. It is truly under your control. At the same time try to be realistic in your expectations
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Thanks for your reply. I agree with what you are saying and that there is not a lot of time to mend fences. I also agree I'm the one that needs to be flexible but how do you release the anger of the past? While most of my life is peaceful but fast past I know the anger has not been completely released and I believe this is what is getting in the way of really "mending this fence."
Is there anything further that I can address?