Great question... unfortunately, I think the irritability is due to a reasonably sharp detox on the backside of the medication; and because the adderall addresses issues in the dopamine system, and the SSRIs and SNRIs deal with issues in the serotonin/norepinepherine systems, there really is nothing that and SSRI or SNRI can do regarding the irritability. A better option for you may be to ask for the sustained release adderall XR (concerta is a reasonable replacement, too). The sustained release pills really smooth out the rise and fall in your system, and may stem the tide of irritability.
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Yikes... you have covered all of the usual suspects. Paxil is the only SSRI you have not tried, but I am afraid you would have an identical reaction to the others. The only other suggestion I have is to try another SNRI - Pristiq is okay, but typically less effective than Cymbalta or Effexor. Because of the boost in energy Cymbalta typically creates (which may fuel your anxiety), Effexor may be best.
A final option would be to try Wellbutrin, which affects the norepinepherine and dopamine systems (staying away from Serotonin may be the best for your given neurochemistry), but which has shown some effectiveness for anxiety. I wish I had a better answer for you, but sometimes it is a matter of trial an error.