I am really not satisfied with such a generic answer, but I understand that this is an online consult. I have never done this before and I saw the website and as a frustrated mother I bit the bullet and went for it anyway. I am more distressed over this situation of dealing with my son than he is, I think, so I will seek counseling for myself. I failed to mention that he is adopted from birth but he does not know yet because he is still very immature. I have attempted to get him to understand about where baby's come from etc. but his attention span is short. He knows that his baby sister is adopted as well and lots of his friends, so I hope this issue doesn't make the gender identity worse. I guess we will see.