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I can't tell you what to do, but to get married on the grounds you describe is a recipe for disaster. You are both young and if the relation cannot withstand a 2 year separation the prognosis for it's longevity is quite poor. I do not under stand why occasional meetings over the 2 years are not possible. El Al is still flying and obtaining a visitor's visa between to US is not difficult. Best wishes and use your thinking not your heart t determine your behavior
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The comparable example is people on military deployment who have about as much contact. Getting married because of time constraints not the desire to consummate the marriage (I do not mean physically) is in my mind the recipe for disaster as you said you really were not ready to make this commitment were it not for the demands of schooling. So as you say you are really not ready and he will be under the intense pressure of study and work. I must share my bias which is to be conservative in interpersonal relations. Remember I am giving an opinion based on 20 years of marital/couples counseling, but it is not fact.