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I am about to file papers for divorce . my husband is emotionally

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I am about to file papers for divorce . my husband is emotionally abusive and I will it is unhealthy to stay in this relationship. I finally got him to get marriage counseling with, but he can't receive. They had said he is arrested in his emotional development probable at a early age, he is narcissistic and can't connect with me. I can't have a conversation with him, he can't hold the thoughts straight and gets angry. It is around and around, exhausting me. He uses bully and intimidation tactics and get stuck on something and can't move on. He is hyper and his whole energy wipes me out. He never remembers very important things that anyone who was in relationship would remember. He has a superiority where he feels superior to others. He has self medicated himself with alcohol and pot (he hid it) He stopped because I felt that was where the abuse was coming from.At X he has bazaar behavior, in conversation he hears things wrong.What could be wrong, adhd? Bipolar? Fetal Alcohol syndrome?


First from the limited amount of information it is really impossible to provide a diagnostic impression. with any reliability. You tend to take to much responsibility when you say you have one shot. This indicates that what you do will result in an outcome. Unfortunately from what you you describe, irrespective of your behavior and any type of professional treatment he may receive, the chance of him being able to effect a behavioral change, such as cease being abusive or acting in an narcissistic fashion is remote. Try to ask him without placing any blame and avoid any judgmental statements. But it sounds as if he is somewhat fixed and the prognosis for a positive outcome is poor. I know what i am saying is quite dire, but you are better off going into counseling if he agrees, with realistic expectations. I wish you the best.




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Customer: replied 6 years ago.
With medication can adhd be controlled. And what do the symptoms look like?? Like anything I mentioned in the first email?? And can it be accurately identified with testing??

Hello,with medication ADHD can definitely be controlled. See gclid=COul1dKmsaECFQuB5QodJivjAw for ADD symptoms. Testing along with intensive interview can accurately diagnose ADD. The things you mention are consistant with ADD.



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