You are doing the right thing by looking at your issues. Please look into the Al Anon program as well and I am including a website: www.al-anon.alateen.org
As for your significant other, the best books related to alcoholics is the BIg Book of AA, and the 12 step book, both of which can be purchased at any AA meeting. I am including a website for this also: www.aa.org
His recovery should be his decision. You will be able to tell if he is serious about recovery if he takes responsibility by going to meetings, working the twelve steps, and doesn't drink, whether you stay with him or not. His recovery must be a decision he makes or it will not work.
Your recovery from codependence will also need to be addressed if you both plan to stay together. Please read some info from the websites I have listed, find a local meeting and allow others to help you recover as well. All these meetings are free and offer a wealth of information for you and he.
Please let me know if you have other questions. Thanks, Gina
Hi, I understand your predicament, but the 12 step programs are supposed to be anonymous.....
You can attend and read much of this information on the internet, if needed.
Codependent No More and The Language of Letting Go by Melody Beattie are both very good. You might also want to try the publisher Hazelden at www.hcibooks.com
They are well known for addiction and codependency books.
I hope this helps, and I wish you the best. Please let me know if you have other questions. Gina