I can understand your pain and sorrow, but I need a question so that I can attempt to help.
Why people like Patrick and I attracted to agressive sex?...I realize you and I cant answer for Patrick..but in..general..why people like us..whish he is also a professional and a solid good person just like I am, attracted to this type of sex activities..?
Is there any web site and/or I need direction on where to go to received addtional information on sex maniac (I'm not even sure if this is the proper name for agressive sex) activities?
P.S. when I was approx.7-8years old, one of my female cousin did abuse me in a very explicit way..quite sexual way when she was babysitting...but the funny thing is, it never really bottered me. Meaning I never was traumatized by it...I consider myself to be quite open minded with sex...but not in a "slutty" way...I guess because I was exposed to it so young..but it never affected me..per say...
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There is a wide range of what is normal ranging from handcuffs, etc on one side (or more extreme) to just petting. There is no right or wrong, I and most others set the limit that the person is not physically hurt. I am sorry that I cannot provide you with reference because most of the literature speaks to aggressive sex that is pathological and that is not what we are discussing here. If you want to explore it with a therapist I would recommend the America Association of Sex Educators, Counselors and Therapists at http://www.aasect.org/ .
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