Thank you for getting back to me, and my apologies for the delay in this reply. It is extremely important that you keep good channels of communication open with the mother, so stick with your efforts there to improve the relationship and the 'teaching' at the weekends. Focus hard on achievements she has made or is making, and show her how pleased you are.
Try to ensure that her mother understands the need for good boundaries and expected standards. I suggest you take the approach that if she can get things right at home, it will all fall into place at school.
You could also tell your daughter of your concerns - without being critical of her or her mother - and ask her what is happening . Some very gentle questioning could prove very useful.
I’m going to suggest that you get a copy of the book “How to talk so kids will listen, and how to listen so kids will talk”. Its ISBN is 1 85340 705 4.
Not only will it help you turn things around round it is also a good read! You could also pass this on to her mother as a sort of aside when you have read it.
Thankyou Norman, I am certain this will be helpful. I have already placed an order for the book as I get the feeling she wants to tell me more. I will certainly keep up with the advice suggested and discuss my concerns with Emily and her mother.