Things I left out. I have had an eating disorder since I was 16. My husband and I have done eveything we can to talk to our daughters about the way their grandmother is and how it is controlling and crazy and obsessive. They seem to be lightyears ahead of me in understanding the way she is. I still can't get over how she can't love someone if they weigh too much. My younger daughter, who I mentioned before, has been ill for six years and gained weight due to inactivity and medications. My mother treats her like she is a lepar and tells me that I am a bad mother for letting her get that way.
Intellectually I know that my mother will never change, but something inside me doesn't want to cut them out of out lives. Can you have it both ways? Or am I doing irreparable harm by exposing my daughter to the abuse, even if she has the support of my husband and I?