I would suggest that your husband have a complete physical exam ( to insure that there are no hormonal problems going on). Once this is completed, it sounds as if you husband need treatment for poor impulse control Whether individual or group is immaterial and really depends upon his comfortability. I would suggest a psychiatric evaluation to determine if medication is needed. Threats of physical violence are totally unacceptable as it is a short step from talk to action. There may be some thing that you do that triggers, so marital counseling maybe helpful. Again threats, although verbal MUST CEASE. Best wishes and good luck.
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