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I would encourage him to seek counseling with you again. This relationship needs some help and if he is not willing to seek help may fall apart. He needs to be communicating wtih you about what is going on and how he is feeling. The distance will only grow greater if this is not dealt with. I would not give him a choice in the matter I would suggest you insist on him getting the counseling with you for the sake of your marriage. If he absolutly refuses I would suggest you get counseling for yourself so you can begin to work with a counselor on how you feel about being in the marriage and what you are going to do. It sound like no matter what you do that he is not responding and you need to make sure you remain healthy emotionally and happy. Please let me know if I can assist anymore. I am here to help.
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