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How old is your child ?
1)since when has she started lying ?
2)does she also have traits of argumentativeness , disrespect to elders or seniors , defiance and doing opposite of what is told to her ?
3)is this lying only restricted to conversations with her parent or does she lie to friends and close relatives as well ?
4)does she lie with an ulterior motive in her mind backing the lying ?
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Well, it is quite implied that she lied to escape the embarrassment of having to face you at the background of her failures and it is quite understandable that her inability to get through her semester stems from the fact that she has lost her confidence a bit and is being under tremendous pressure of expecatations from you as parents and her own expectaions to perform , that she gets too much overwhelmed by the stress, that she looses the plot and succumbs to the pressure.
So, in this case , giving due respect and credit to you as parents in thinking well about your children 's welfare , but i believe it would do a world of good to her confidence and self belief if for once you tell her to take her exams without taking any tension about the results and just put her energy and concentration on her studies , and leave the rest to god and tell her that you are proud of her achievemnet so far and would offer unconditional and relentless support to her no mattter what would be the result , this kind of heart to heart encouragement talk would boost her confidence and self belief and uplift her moral , which has taken a severe beating in the recent past due to a succession of unfortunate failures , otherwise what could explain an A grade scholarship student , not able to pass her semester , the real culprit is stress of expectations to perform from all corners and lack of support from parents , so without giving too much weightage to her lying , give your support endlessly and you wil see that she will come back on track , as all she needs is your endless back up , like you would have done when she was a child .
I hope this helps..
I wish you all the best..
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Well, that is really so nice that you are being understanding and trying to render your support to her , but i believe that since your efforts have not turned out to be a moral booster, so instead of wasting any further precious time , you shall take her to a psychologist and get her started on counseling in the form of Cognitive behaviour therapy ( CBT ) , which suits best to overcome low confidence and boost one's moral and clear and objective thinking ..and you will see that after a few sessions , she will again become as confident as before.. and would perform well in the semester..