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Norman M.
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We are having sexual problems in our marriage and my wife is

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We are having sexual problems in our marriage and my wife is not willing to go to counselling and blames me for not lasting long enough in bed. Is there any self help I can seek on my own to prevent premature ejaculation ?
Submitted: 7 years ago.
Category: Mental Health
Expert:  Norman M. replied 7 years ago.
HelloCustomer- thanks for visiting JA.

First of all, the problem of premature ejaculation is one of the most common problems that men have in their sex lives. There have been all sorts of theries about what causes it, but the truth is that the causes are probably multi-factorial. Not that it matters really - what matters is what you can do about it. Indeed, there is self-help available.

There are a variety of treatments you can use - drugs (some types of anti-depressant medications have proved useful), thought-stopping techniques (in which you deliberately mentally switch off to the act of intercourse while you are it), Masters-Johnston technique exercises, local anaesthetics ( spray - on) to reduce sensation, treated condoms (which have a similar effect).

I'd like you to have a look at this excellent website, which explains everything in detail:
http://www.netdoctor.co.uk/sex_relationships/facts/prematureejaculation.htm

Best wishes,
NormanM

Customer: replied 7 years ago.

Thanks Norman...are there any other websites to review...I don't wish to take any drugs or use local anaesthetics or treated condoms...also would anything change if I was to get a vasectomy ?

Regards, Peter

Expert:  Norman M. replied 7 years ago.
Hello Peter - there are a few, and here is a selection that I think are worthwhile:

http://www.nhs.uk/Conditions/Ejaculation-problems/Pages/Treatment.aspx

http://www.bbc.co.uk/relationships/sex_and_sexual_health/probs_prematureejaculation.shtml

http://mayoclinic.com/health/premature-ejaculation/DS00578/DSECTION=treatments-and-drugs


Just a word of warning - there are lots of cowboys out there on the Internet who would like to separate you from your cash for a "miracle cure" - take care.


I rather doubt if vasectomy would produce a change, though.
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