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It has been going on for several months. I am not on any medication. I don't find sex repugnant but it is was never very important for me nor do I recognise it as a very pleasant thing. There are many ways of showing love that I find more interesting, I'm afraid.
I’m going to suggest that you would benefit greatly from a course of Cognitive Behavioral Therapy. It is a form of therapy that addresses problems in a direct and targeted way and is brief compared with most other therapies.
CBT is based on the fact that what we think in any given situation generates beliefs about, and reactions to that situation, and also cause the behaviour and feelings which flow from those beliefs and reactions.
These ‘automatic thoughts’ are so fast that generally, we are unaware that we have even had them. We call them ANTS (automatic negative thoughts) for short.
If the pattern of thinking we use, or our beliefs about our situation are even slightly distorted, the resulting emotions and actions that flow from them can be extremely negative and unhelpful. The object of CBT is to identify these ‘automatic thoughts’ then to re-adjust our thoughts and beliefs so that they are entirely realistic and correspond to the realities of our lives, and that therefore, the resulting emotions, feelings and actions we have will be more useful and helpful.
Cognitive therapists do not usually interpret or seek for unconscious motivations but bring cognitions and beliefs into the current focus of attention and through guided discovery encourage clients to gently re-evaluate their thinking.
Therapy is not seen as something “done to” the client. CBT is not about trying to prove a client wrong and the therapist right, or getting into unhelpful debates. Through collaboration, questioning and re-evaluating their views, clients come to see for themselves that there are alternatives and that they can change.
Clients try things out in between therapy sessions, putting what has been learned into practice, learning how therapy translates into real life improvement.
Please visit this website for much more detailed information on CBT:
My very best wishes,
I am very sorry that I had to interrupt. When I got back to you you weren't available anymore, so I thought I would get an answer eventually and disconnected again until now.
I am very happy with this experience. You've made me think differently and I had the chance to tell my husband about this which came to be very productive. We are aware that it will not be easy but I am not as frightened as I were, feeling that I was abnormal... The country where I live is still very conservative and it is not easy to get the chance of meeting a open mind which is the best way of leaving the fears behind our backs.
I may come to you sometime. Thank you!!!