Hi, Thank you for using Just Answer. At this point, it sounds as if he is trying to make some decisions. I would allow him to do so, but not at the expense of your own well being. This is a roller coaster of emotions with his indecisiveness. And something you cannot change for him, but you can for yourself.
This is a time for you to focus on yourself and your own wants and needs. Focus back on what you want out of life without including him. By this, I mean develop a set of goals and ambitions for yourself and your children. If he conitnues to be a part of your life, that is well and good, but this is something you do as a separate individual.
Talk to your counselor about learning to set goals in every area of your life. One therapeutic coaching method is to look at all areas such as: spiritual, family, work, mental, emotional, physical, recreational, etc. See how well all these are balanced, and develop goals to fill each one until you are satisfied. Many times we look at the relationship as the end all for everything. But, you can be happy and fulfilled if you work on other areas of your life as well.
This is how you become f balanced, healthy person. It also allows you to attract balanced and healthy people as friends and in relationships.
You can decide if you continue this roller coaster, but at least be good to yourself while you are riding! Do things for yourself, even if you don't feel like doing anything. Action rather than reaction on your part will help you feel empowered. Please let me know if you have other questions. Gina