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Well, a psychologist does not have as much knowledge as a psychiatrist about psycho-pharmacology , that is psychiatry drugs , although the psychologist can recommend drugs which you can get prescribed from a doctor , this can also work for her , and as it has been suggested by me , she needs to be put on a combnation of 1 anti depressant such as either effexor xr or paxil cr and 1 anti anxiety drug such as either klonopin or ativan . So, discuss these drugs with your psychologist and then with your doctor and hopefully this will help her come out of her specific person anxiety , and yes , continue on the psychotherapy ( counseling ) from her psychologist , and i am quite sure this combination of drug therapy and psychotherapy will help her fight the anxiety .
Also, this time ask your psychologist to try Cognitive behavioural therapy ( CBT ) with your wife , this is a type of psychotherapy , quite effective treatment method in anxiety patients as your wife.
Now , as far as me telling her about giving up such anxiety while eating in front of you , i would tell her that she has a loving and caring husband who is supportive of her so much and loves her without any conditions attached , so she should stop worrying and getting anxious while eating in front of him , your husband is not judging you , he wants you to be happy and healthy and stop being such conscious self in front of him , and enjoy meals and life with him .
I hope this helps..
I wish you all the best..
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