Goodness - what a night. 2010 hasn't been exactly comforting for you, has it? Well, as I read through your question, I kept asking myself, "Where the HECK is her boyfriend in all of this?" There are not many possible answers, and several of them do not bode well for this relationship:
(1) He was present and did
not take part in ridiculing you. If this was the case, then he totally dropped the ball when it comes to protecting you. If he is truly that DENSE that he could not see how badly the ribbing was bothering you (and I don't care how much you "think" you concealed your reactions - a lover would know you were faking), then you have chosen a mate who may not be the best at emotionally connecting to you.
(2) He was present and took place in the ribbing. If this was the case, then he is more toxic and even LESS connected to you than I gave him credit in answer number 1. In fact, there may be a sadistic edge to him. You are 30 years old, so I assume he is roughly your age. If he was 17, then I could firgive some of this block-headedness. At 30, this is just boorish behavior.
(3) He was not present. I will table this response, as I presume you would not play without him being around.
(4) You were hyper-sensitive to the ribbing, and may not have read it/them correctly. I will also discount this possibility, as their calling you a "bimbo" leaves very little room for misinterpretation.
So... (5) here's the deal: You MUST take this up with him if your relationship is to ever survive. If not, this will fester inside of you until it comes squeezing out in all sorts of destructive ways. The fact that you are writing to me instead of speaking to him about it tells me that you probably have some trauma in your history that makes you either (a) accept criticism because it confirms a negative self-view and low self-esteem, (b) fear confrontation, thinking that a catastrophe (i.e., abandonement, abuse, etc) will happen if you open your mouth and stick up for yourself. Or (of course) (c) both of the above.
So listen marilyn, take care of yourself, okay? If your b.f. allows this type of treatment to happen, it does not mean that you have to allow it as well. If you do not feel you will be able to open a discussion about this topic, or find yourself repeatedly falling for guys who are clueless as to your emotional well-being, then please seek a therapist to help fortify some of your boundaries.
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