Thanks Steve. I did hear the warning voices the second time but ignored them thinking it couldn't happen to me twice. I will listen to them if it happens again! (I have had a couple of good relationships as well.)
What book (written in fairly non-medical language) would a therapist use in this situation - and is it feasible for me to try to help? - from what I have been reading, prognosis for this disorder is poor. Will the book which you have recommended help me to help him as well as help me to understand my own situation and reaction? Thanks.