HI Suzanne and thanks for writing JustAnswer.com
First off, all of us have traits of different personality disorders, some of us score higher than others but personality lables are not people. People are people.
I think from what I can glean from your post that your husband has either disappointed or betrayed you, but do you think you can formulate a question so we can respond.It is clear you are in a great deal of pain and experts here would like to help. What is your question Suzanne?
All my very best wishes to you Suzanne.